I need you to do me a favor – look at yourself in a mirror.
Do you think you’re attractive? Do you feel confident in your appearance?
If you don’t – that’s a big problem.
Not only are you less confident in yourself, but studies show you’re more likely to experience depression.
Thankfully – I have some good news for you.
Chances are there are small signs that you’re more attractive than you think.
I’m putting your worries at ease.
In today’s article, I’ll tell you eight subtle signs you’re attractive that you might have missed.
1. You Find Yourself Locking Eyes with a Lot of People
Research by the University of Oslo in 2015 found that your brain gives you a dopamine shot when looking at something pleasurable. This dopamine shot is equivalent to eating your favorite food or winning the lottery.
As humans, we tend to stare at things we find pleasurable – art, film, and other people. There are different eye contact levels – so don’t assume that every woman you lock eyes with is interested. Sometimes our eyes are just wandering around, and they coincidentally meet with someone else’s eyes.
But – if a woman keeps looking at you even for short periods, it means she likes what she sees. If the eye contact comes with a smile, it can convey intense emotions she has for you. This is considered a subconscious attempt to establish a connection with you.
Furthermore, suppose you notice a woman making eye contact, and she doesn’t look away when you catch her staring. In that case, this means she is even more interested and is trying to give you a hint to start a conversation.
Let’s face it, guys – we need all the hints we can get these days.
2. Women Raise Their Eyebrows When They Look At You
When someone raises their eyebrows, it usually means they are either surprised or caught off guard. If someone looks at you and subconsciously raises their eyebrows, it’s another one of the subtle signs you’re attractive.
In the 1995 book, The Human Face: Emotions, Identities, and Masks, Dane Archer found that humans have less control over the top of their heads (eyes, brows, and forehead) regarding emotions.
Like smiling, raising your eyebrows is a natural reaction conducted by your brain; it can be done consciously, but usually isn’t.
When women see an attractive person, they can also subconsciously make “duck” lips. Now – I’m not talking about your standard “duckface” that is found on social media. This is a much more subtle duckface that only lasts one or two seconds.
Look for a slight puckering of her lips – she’s subconsciously telling you she wants to kiss you. This gesture can be compared to licking lips, which also signals the same wish.
3. You Have a Growth Mindset
There are two different types of mindsets you can have – fixed and growth.
In a fixed mindset, people believe their necessary qualities, like their intelligence or talent, are simply fixed traits. They spend their time documenting their intelligence or talent instead of developing them. They also believe that talent alone creates success—without effort.
In a growth mindset, people believe that their most basic abilities can be developed through dedication and hard work—brains and talent are just the starting point. This view creates a love of learning and a resilience that is essential for great accomplishment.
Someone who has a fixed mindset is fixed – they never progress. However, someone with a growth mindset thinks anything is possible.
Since you’re an RMRS reader – I know you have a growth mindset – otherwise, you wouldn’t be reading this article to improve yourself.
To women, this mindset is irresistible. Not only are you more positive, but you’re much more enjoyable to be around. Women are more attractive to men who are continually looking to improve themselves. This is also what makes you an excellent team player, which is very important and very attractive.
4. People Value Your Opinion Over Others
This point needs a little bit of background to fully understand.
In the 2011 book, “Beauty Pays: Why Attractive People Are More Successful,” Daniel Hamermesh found that attractive people earn 3-4% more than people with below-average looks and get hired sooner and promotions more quickly.
This shows that attractive people are more successful than unattractive people, and others will naturally assume you are successful based on looks.
Following the idea that you’re successful, others naturally seek out the opinion of people like you. Women (or men) will naturally come to you for your thoughts because they want to emulate you and your success.
5. Others Go Out of Their Way To Help You
Have you noticed that others jump at the opportunity to help you with a problem you’re having – regardless of the situation?
The reason for this may is another one of the subtle signs you’re attractive. People are more likely to lend you a helping hand. We tend to subconsciously be friendlier and more generous to those we find to be beautiful.
People naturally help others when they want to feel better about themselves and appear better to others. In essence, she’s trying to help you to make herself look better in your eyes.
The halo effect comes into play here as well. The halo effect is a cognitive bias in which our overall impression of a person influences how we feel about their character.
For instance, if you’re viewed as attractive – odds are others will think you’re naturally a good person. By helping you, a woman is trying to rise to your level of perceived goodness.
6. People Ask You A Lot of Questions
Why do you ask someone questions? The answer is simple – you want to get to know that person better. With over seven billion people globally, why on Earth would this beautiful woman be asking you so many questions?
Another one of the subtle signs you’re attractive is that women want to know you better. She’s taking the first step. She’s curious about you and is putting in effort towards understanding you.
Subconsciously, she’s also trying to get you to like her more. A study from the Journal of Personality and Social Psychology in 2017 found that people who ask more questions, particularly follow-up questions, are better liked by their conversation partners.
When people are instructed to ask more questions, they are perceived as higher in responsiveness. This interpersonal construct captures listening, understanding, validation, and care.
So the next time a woman asks you a bunch of questions – don’t be annoyed – take it as a compliment and start talking to her. Odds are she finds you attractive.
7. Everyone Around You is Happy
In “Biology: Your Brain In Love,” Helen Fisher found that when someone sees someone attractive, their brain hits them with dopamine – similar to how you feel when you look at a good painting.
It’s much more common for someone to smile at strangers they find attractive than someone they don’t. If you happen to notice that you get a friendly smile from most people you pass by on the street; chances are, they find you attractive.
We tend to smile at things or people that are aesthetically-pleasing subconsciously. Giving a quick smile can be a way of flirting, but more often than not, it’s just a natural reaction to something pleasing to the eye.
Another sign that you’re more attractive than you think is that everyone laughs at your jokes. Now – you might be the next Larry David – but chances are you tell some jokes that fall flat.
If you notice that more times than not, others are laughing at your jokes, you’re probably attractive. Women are attracted to a good sense of humor in general and love when you smile. Don’t be afraid to smile and laugh with people – don’t laugh at people.
8. People are Shocked That You Have Any Insecurities
We all have insecurities – you do, and so do I. It’s natural for people to have them – we have to make sure they don’t dominate our lives.
However, often we put attractive people on pedestals. We assume they are perfect – an example of this is looking up to celebrities even though their ordinary people.
Looking at you, people think that everything is perfect at your end because you look self-confident and self-sufficient. In fact, the conclusive evidence of your attractiveness is not the surprise, but the irritation of those surrounding you that you dare to complain about having issues when you have so many advantages compared to them.
This is why most people are surprised when you mention specific aspects of your appearance that you’re not happy with or want to change. But the truth is, everyone struggles with low self-esteem from time to time.
Any flaws you find seem minuscule to them; they probably don’t even notice whatever imperfection you spot in the mirror.
Conclusion – Subtle Signs You’re Attractive
Chances are you’re more attractive than you think – we tend to be harder on ourselves than others.
In today’s article, I went through 8 subtle signs you’re attractive that you probably missed.
- You Find Yourself Locking Eyes with a Lot of People
- Women Raise Their Eyebrows When They Look At You
- You Have a Growth Mindset
- People Value Your Opinion Over Others
- Others Go Out of Their Way To Help You
- People Ask You A Lot of Questions
- Everyone Around You is Happy
- People Are Shocked That You Have Any Insecurities
Keep an eye out for these subtle signs you’re attractive – they can be hard to spot, but once you do – you’ll never miss them again.